A Message From JL:
This web log is an open and straightforward interchange of comments, topics and information on sex, intimate encounters and pragmatic mating rituals. It is my goal to provide uninhibited information and be a timely source of positive feedback, particularly to women.
My vision for this column is as a sexual remedy and vital link for private matters…
According to a safe tutor website, 4% of Caucasian and 7% of African-American women reported practicing anal sex during “a typical four-week period” with their most recent sex partner.
Yep, I’m going there. And NOPE all women don’t hate anal sex. What’s cool is that, more women are becoming open and embracive of spontaneous sexual intercourse. And, anal sex is one of those sexual acts. From preparation to performance you have to treat that area like you would a vagina. You’ve got to clean it—douche, wash it, lubricate it and enjoy!
The anus and vagina actually share some of the characteristics: 1) they both have lips, 2) are moist, 3) are made of epithelium tissue, 4) spread and, 5) require cleanliness practices.
Now, some women may say that they HATE anal sex, but have never tried it and are “for real” about not going there. Ladies, as you know it’s all about timing. Just as in “conventional” sex, you may have to endure some of the unenjoyable pain and when inserting the penis, your partner should take it easy. Glide in and out—stretch the tissue and the fit will become accommodating, like a hand and glove. Again, just as the vagina, the “lips” will mend and be ready for the next time.
From the back? Or I don’t get down like that? Let me know your thoughts. I look forward to heating from you. (Note: Whatever you do…always practice safer sex!)
Dear JL (aka Dr. Love):
I had my first sexual experience through anal sex, and I had the greatest orgasm of my life. Something about my man being totally in control just got me off. The first time you have anal sex it hurts like heck, but just like sex, the more you do it, the easier it gets.
Pamela,
Thanks for sharing. Your experience is just like a lot I hear. Like I say, don’t knock it, until you try it!
JL,
My man wants to perform anal sex on me, but I hate it. If I don’t give it to him, does that mean he will go to a man?
Dear Ms. Don’t Want To Give It Up,
Nah! If he’s straight, he’s straight. And just because he wants to have anal sex with you doesn’t mean that he’s not straight. But, let me tell you, if he wants some ass, literally, ummm… and you are unwilling to give it to him, you may want to do a trade.
But, if you don’t talk to him about his desire or just act like it’s no big deal, you might drive him into the arms of another female who will give him what he seeks—some backfield action…
Dear Dr. Love,
My man likes me to put my finger up his anus during sex. Last week, he told me to put more fingers in. Last night, he asked me to use a dildo on him. Do you think he’s gay or bisexual?
Dear Afraid My Man is Gay:
Great name. Because girl, he is gay! No “straight” man will want you to do that. With him, his anus is OFF LIMITS!
